Often it is said that to find peace, we must make peace with our pain. And that to move on, we must not hold on to the grudges. This implies that we must ‘forgive those who sin against us’. The question then is, is forgiving really in our hands? Is it easy to let go of the hurt, anger, disappointment, rage and anguish?
While we all know the theory that hatred solved never anything, are we ever in a state to apply that practically? Being the humans that we are, doesn’t the idea of revenge flash a thousand times before taking the plunge to make a sagely decision? And then, doesn’t our soul truly want revenge…or justice as it sounds niche? And truly want them to go through to the same torment that we were put through?
They say time heals every thing. But if you analyse it, then you will too agree with me when I say: No, it doesn’t. Time just makes us more strong to bear that pain and live with it. And time brings in more experiences of similar fashion, making us all the more tolerant to pain. That’s it really. Time gives us the time to face it. But again, we becoming stronger doesn’t mean that the pain has mellowed down. And it definitely doesn’t mean you are ready to forgive.
That lingering pain from that particular experience which happened on that day fateful day does stay along. You don’t really forget what happened and how you felt. In fact, try digging those lanes and the same pain will engulf you which will carry the same impact on your nerves as on that day. And if those memories are so vivid that they bring back the same raging emotions which you haven’t yet forgotten, then have you really forgiven? Isn’t there still bad air?